We know that current state of higher education in India is not in top form. Here are some points which I want to highlight..
*** Current Scenario
1. Theory based University Education.
2. More weight-age to theoretical papers.
3. Poor Infrastructure.
4. Severe negligence to intelligent students who are very good a particular subject not in all subject.
5. Lack of experienced teacher in terms of industrial exposure.
6. Government funding is not sufficient or funding is mismanaged.
7. Syllabus is not upto-date.
8. Student feedback system is absent or not known.
9. NPTEL course material is good enough but not known to all university.
10. Some university sessions run late due to which a degree course takes more time than required.
*** What can be done::
1. Training of faculty members to
1.1 update about current industrial standards
1.2 update about current industrial trends
1.3 appreciate the efforts of students who want to go beyond the syllabus and want to invent/develop something.
1.4 having proper practical knowledge of subject.
1.5 conduct workshops relevant to their majors
2. Time to time inter university or Intra- University initiatives, competitions and workshops
3. Universities should have special fund to invest in an idea or project if found promising.
4. Proper infrastructure so that students can do their hands-on effectively and efficiently.
5. Keeping the practical tool updated: e.g: TurboC is still used in universities whereas it's support has been withdrawn from 2009. Similarly Adobe Flash is going to be absolute so there is no need to put efforts in learning that.
6. Although arrangement of guest faculties is norm in universities/colleges, but still not very popular form of teaching. We can do this arrangement for specific topics instead of subject specific.
7. Free availability of research papers are available for few universities only, government can make some arrangements that small colleges and universities get same kind of benefits also.
8. In every universities we can have an IP(Intellectual Property) Panel, which help to expedite to get patents for the innovations done by students during their college term.
9. Government can put some incentive program for universities who keep on publishing new research papers. This will increase competitive environment.
We both were working in the same company. And after getting into relationship we came to know that both of us never thought of joining this company, rather we didn't even know the company name. Joining this very company itself a long story for both of us. So skipping this company joining part. So I joined this company on 1 st of Nov 2011. And she joined 21st of Nov 2011 with another girl[Let's call this another girl Any]. But destiny has different plans for us[better plans for us-we realized later].
So, I started training Any and my colleague started training her. At first look she was like Ok type [in boys language]. I had hardly any conversation with her and I hardly gave any special attention to her. Time kept passing , we usually used to talk in the lunch time , because she used to eat my lunch after finishing her lunch.[note: rare girl found here]. And then we used to have little walk after the lunch. After some time I kinda like the idea of walk after the lunch.
Till this time , I used to like another girl[Say Any2] in the office and we had good time in office, Me and Any2 became good friends . Our HR and Manager were jealous of our friendship. I could easily recognize their expressions. So this continues for 2 months . Now then a new project came and resource allocation was planned by my managers. I don't know out of jealously or what neither Any nor Any2 came into my Project.
So,in this project there were 5 peoples. I ,she and 3 more guys. These 3 guys were senior to me in the company so they were good friends . That how we came closer,because
1. Our nearest metro station was same to our client side
2. We were left out by those three.
So travel time+lunch time + project discussions brought her close to me . After three months working together I fell in love with her. But every time I used to think,no this can't be true. I just like her .
So I kept ignoring my feelings. And then this project ended and I was moved to some other projects.
Now I was in another project with another beautiful and cute girls in [July-Oct 2012]. So I thought now feelings for her should vanish. But no it gets stronger and stronger . The more I try to look towards another girls, the more my heart remembers her. So finally I got to know beta Rahul- now your mind and heart have the chemical locha. You can't ignore it. So I finally decided to propose her. And I wrote all my feeling in form of so called love letter and planned to give her with proposal.
Now the proposal[22-09-12] day,we planned to meet after her interview at Sec-18 noida , it was pretty hard to get a date with her so I said after interview we can meet easily. Interview started at 10:00 , so I expected to end it around 11 or 11:30. So I reached KFC at 11:00 and called her but the phone got Busy that means interview is still going. So, I kept waiting there with flowers, 3 small gifts and with my love letter . During the wait of 4 hours I almost tried all drinks of KFC with the lowest possible intake rate. First time ever I was not able to enjoy any of the drinks due combination of nervousness and excitement. So finally I got a call around 15:00 and she told that interview was not that good[meri to lag gayi - I thought beta mood to sahi nhi hoga iska aaj, aur tu propose karega aaj,tera pitna pakka hai chhore] . She then said ki cancel KFC and let's go to CP, we will have some food. I agreed instantly as I had no time to lose or wait.
Now, we were in the CCD of Rajiv Chauk. Here even after a good cup of coffee, she easily traced my nervousness and asked ki ghadi to 4 bajaa rahi hi tumhaare chehre pe 12 kyun baje hain. I couldn't reply anything, just said bas aise hi. There were several things happening in my mind . I was not able to think where should I start and how should I start. So , to ease her mood [mine as well] I gifted her one of the gift to her. She liked it very much. But still I couldn't figure out how I should I start. I couldn't propose her at CCD. So we went up to Central Park.
Now, we were in the CP talking all the random stuff, but still I couldn't have the enough courage to say her. Then my best friend Ruchi 's call came that she will be at Rajiv Chauk in 10 mins. I went to metro again to bring her in the CP. In the meantime I conveyed all feeling for her to Ruchi and ask her if she can help me .
During the conversation Ruchi tried to figure out what's going inside her mind. I asked Ruchi in the language of eyes . Ruchi clearly indicated that I have no chance.[Meri to lagg gayi]. But I was determined that this is the day, I won't find any other day or life to propose her. Thinking all of this the time passed and girls planned to leave for the day. I was like NOOOOOOOOOOO..... Then as soon as she/they started to move from CP , I bent on my knees and gave the second gift which was a keychain of heart inside heart[ meaning for me was - I will keep your heart safe inside my heart.] and said that Please take my heart. She was not expecting a proposal from me so she thought it was some kind of joke or prank, but after looking my serious face she asked are you serious ..? I said "Yes, aur Tujhe kya lagta hai? subah se mere face pe 12 aiwe hi baja hua tha.? ". She then said as you proposed me, there shouldn't be any change between us. We were friends and we will be friends. I said i have no issues.[ In my mind I wanted to hear the same].
Now, we were inside the metro,Ruchi left us at Central Secretariat and we continued the same metro. Now to light up the mood. I gave the flowers and showed her the third gift . And said if u had accepted my proposal I would have gave the third one also.But I won't give you now. I will give this to you whichever comes earlier either your acceptance or your birthday.[Don't know why I kinda blackmailed her]
Time passed and an office trip was planned . I clearly said to her if you are not coming , I am not going too. Then she agreed to come , but along with her elder sister . Mai to fas hi gya ab naa to haan bol paaya naa naa. So we all (7 colleagues) started our journey in an Innova around 8 pm. I was in last row with her and her sister. As expected her sister was sitting between us.Then we stopped for dinner around 10 pm . After dinner her sister gave the chance to sit her with me [Don't know if she did intentionally or not]. We had awesome Antakshari till 1 a.m. then all of them got sleepy except me. As she was just sitting beside me her head used to come to my shoulder time to time, but as soon as she got to know she just kept her straight, but it was long journey. After one hour her head finally landed to my shoulder for the long time as she was in deep sleep. This feeling was out of the world. At this time all I wanted was may this head remain on my shoulder forever and ever. I made sure that she don't feel the jerk of vehicle. She woke up in the morning and saw me awaking and asked if I was awake whole night . I lied that no I just woke up. But yes she got to know that whole night her head was on my shoulders.
Now we were still inside that Innova. In the morning after her waking up , I gathered some courage and hold her hand. Due to shock or some running thoughts she parted her hand after 2 or 3 minutes.
I thought that this was the end of my love story and suddenly a miracle happened and now she was holding my hand . I kept holding her hand for the whole office trip in front of all 4 other colleagues without fearing all possible gossip ,rumors and taunts. This was my experience of Magic of Warmth in the cold night as an acceptance came silently without uttering a word. Sometimes we don't need to tell what we feel, the person whom you love can get to know your feelings very easily. Every time I meet her it seems that this is the best day ever. And I am fortunate to that I still feel the Magic Warmth touch everyday, as she is my wife now. :).
Investing in stock market is risky- we all know this fact. But how risky ? - This is the question which we all want to know or some people don't want to know just because being risky is enough for them to stay away from the market.
Before reading further let me put this declaimer : "I am a fairly new investor(1 and half year old in market to be precise), so my view will be fairly limited to my experience of market as well as studies done by me.
This article is all about how to learn and start investing in market without taking much risk. Let's start. (Earlier you start, better the returns):-
If you don't want to track stock market on daily or monthly basis and fluctuations make your heart beat faster then go for Balanced Mutual Funds(Open ended with growth option).
If you can bear the fluctuations and ready to take some risks go for Equity Mutual Funds
If you want to save taxes as well while investing in Mutual Funds go for ELSS.
Note: Prefer Open Ended Mutual Funds with Growth Options only. Choose dividend Mutual Funds when you need regular returns from Mutual Funds.
If your risk appetite is still little higher than that and want to make your hands dirty with manual selections of stocks, go ahead with following steps in mind. These steps are meant for long term investment horizon.
Start with small amount. Limit 5-10% of your annual income in first year.
Purchase only quality stocks companies which you know and their annual turnover is respectable.(Nifty 100 or BSE S&P 200)
Search for unpopular large companies, there may be some companies which may be part of S&P 100 or 200 but not so popular in masses due to their business model, such companies can be bought at bargain.
Maximum price to be paid for any share should not reach more than 25 times their P/E.
Search for the stocks which are at low due to some temporary issues. Like- Flood or some natural disaster affecting their business.
Never buy a share which has been subjected to some lawsuits.
Keep buying at regular interval. This will average your buying price and help in good return in long term.
A great company may not be a great investment if you buy it overprices.(refer to P/E rule)
Don't put all of your eggs in a basket. Means diversify your investment but not too much. Purchase different sectors.
If you get chance to put your money in foreign market don't put more than 1/3 of your portfolio.
Don't rely much on market forecasts and market experts.
Never sell all of your stocks no matter how much market is overvalued.
When you think market is overvalued sell the stocks and keep the money in bonds and repurchase when you feel market is undervalued.
Never buy after a substantial rise or fall of market.
Make sure company has paid regular dividend from last 5 to 10 years.
Don't try to beat the market, try to make return close to market returns.
Index funds does the best job as they don't try to beat the market.
See cashflow statement of company and see if their income from operations is increasing through out the years.
Look for the debt on company it should be less than 50% of their capital. (D/E should be less than 0.5)
Start your investment from ETFs and Mutual Funds to understand market sentiments.
Make a virtual portfolio from sites like moneycontrol.com and add your favourite stocks in it and match market return.
Don't frequently buy and sell as brokerage charges and taxes can make your actual gain less.
Take benefits of 1 year lock advantage for equity as capital gain is free from taxes.
First of all, this blog should have come little early than this ,may be a or two year ago, but it's never too late.
All of must agree that our parents are the first teachers we came across (especially mother). I have learnt a lot of things from parents whether it is academics or normal life. I am always thankful to my mom and dad for all of the lessons they taught me intentionally or unintentionally. By saying unintentionally I mean to say they themselves gave a solid example of teachings in form of day to situation handling. I would like to mention some great examples -
Examples set my mom-
Avid reader: No matter what it takes my mom kept reading and studying alive (in short keeping her hobby alive).My mom did her M.A. in psychology from Kashi Hindu Vishwavidyalaya(Varanasi) while having me as a kid.
Fight for the right and rights- In some situations where there is a conflicting matter between my mom and dad, my mom use to fight for right. e.g. - These rights can be ranging from family to political depending upon the situation.
Changing the image of women- When I get little sense(In btech u can say :P) I found men are usually stereotyping women. Girls/Women are like this like that blah blah blah and all. I found my mom opposite of all.
3.1. She did M.A. not for the sake of collecting degree or getting a job. She did just because she was into the studies. A die hard fan of study and reading.
3.2. She loves cricket more than us, knows more rules than us(brother,dad n me).
3.3. Watching all those crappy saas bahu serials very less often.
3.4. She didn't spoon feed us( We brothers are doing our laundry and dusting since childhood).
3.5. Hardly found of jewellery and fashion.
3.6 Helping dad in the business of school i.e. teaching, monitoring , managing ,directing etc.
3.7. Not very emotional- I can't be sure about this point but all I can say unlike most women(as stereotyped)who used to use emotions as their weapon to make something happen against the will of her husband, I never found my mom doing this. Secondly my mom's emotions never came into the way of pursuing my higher education as my hometown is Sasaram and did my graduation from Delhi. She was always cheerful while saying a goodbye while leaving my home town every time.
4. Been with my dad from his worst to best.
Examples set my Dad-
Man of steel - You may not believe it but he is my man of steel because of several reasons. First of all he is very hard worker. I have seen him working since 5 A.M. to 9 P.M. on daily basis for several years. I still think how is that possible -Dad!. He took rest from his home tuition profession only after getting a govt job. Secondly I have hardly any memory of my dad fallen sick - so I have very solid reasons to call him Man of Steel.
Having mentality ahead of his generation- I have multiple points on this point.
2.1. Having 3 or 4 children was very common in my Father's generation but my father had decided to keep it only two. Hats off Dad !!.
2.2. I have asked many men and found that still it is pretty difficult to get them involved in family planning. But my father did in that generation. Here is the link if you have any doubts-
2.3. Strictness according to age- This is a very crucial thing in the parenting. My dad always know that when and how much freedom we boys deserve(applies to both bros). Like after passing my 10th I wanted to go to movie[Main Hoon naa] with friends for the first time and my mom denied strictly then I have to say it to Dad. He said Yes instantly. Dad you are great - love you .
2.4. Helping mom in house hold chores - This will be rarely find in the men of my Dad's generation in the small town like Sasaram.
2.5. Helped mom to get her masters done despite my dad having only graduate degree.
3. Treating my mom like queen- Love and care this is what I am still learning from my mom and Dad. My dad takes very much care of mom. I never saw my dad yelling at my mom. There were situations of disconnect and disagreement but it never happened that it led to any physical fight. So I have learnt to respect women from Dad which is very much absent from many men.
4. Helped me to take interest in maths and science. He took care of my studies till 7-8th grade or you can say until I got another tutor. My dad also taught me importance of English despite I was studying in Hindi medium till my 10th.
I don't know whether I am writing anything new or not but I just wanted to express myself.
Everybody knows starting is one of the toughest thing in your course of action.
We need to understand that why we usually don't start anything we wanted to do for a long time.
There are two major reasons for our delayed starting.
1. Our Laziness
2. Fear of failure.
1. Our Laziness: We usually don't show laziness when it becomes important for us to do something. But laziness strikes when things are not immediately harming us.
I will take a very example for this- Going to GYM. [It is a common new year resolution which people make every year. But very few of them continue this for long.
Reason is simple. Not exercising doesn't harm us immediately and so comes our laziness.
2. Why do fear to start something new - reason being we hate to get fail. Nobody likes to get fail. I will give a very general example for this.
Many times two compatible persons don't get along just for the reason of getting rejected. A boy may have a secret crush on a girl and girl likes him too.
But fear of rejection is holding both of them. This is one of few reasons that we have missed many great couple stories till date.
Similar in the case of greeting random people in our office. In our office we usually fail to recognise that there are many people who work before your coming to office to look office neat and clean.
We greet our colleagues and supervisors only. I don't know how many of you can recognise your gatekeeper or sweeper outside your office premises. What it takes to greet them- A simple Good Morning - That's it.
I have seen that if started giving love and respect to someone I get more love, affection and respect from that person. Although this situation may not hold true for everyone.
But what's harm in giving love if we can't get back same love. Love is not money if you keep giving - it will run our after sometime. In the race of money we have forgotten that what is the glue which has bounded all of us. - It's none of the other than- love. In today world it seems money is the cement which has bounded us- that's why once the money is gone- all the connections are lost.
That's why friendship, relationship just became a dictionary term now a days.
For me there was not a single first expert in my life. I can hardly distinguish who is more important to me - Mom or Dad. For me they are a single entity. Since my childhood if somebody asks whom you love more Mom or Dad. I still can't figure it out. I have been continuously showered with love from both.
Everybody needs experts for some suggestion or to get their work done. I have a single expert called- Parents. If I ask any advice from Mom or Dad I will get a single concrete answer from any of them. Means there was always a firm advice no matter how much this has been discussed between them.
All of must agree that our parents are the first teachers read (experts) we came across (especially mother). I have learnt a lot of things from parents whether it is academics or normal life. I am always thankful to my mom and dad for all of the lessons they taught me intentionally or unintentionally. By saying unintentionally I mean to say they themselves gave a solid examples of teachings in form of day to situation handling. I would like to mention some great examples , so let's start with mom first-
Examples set my mom-
Avid reader: No matter what it takes my mom kept reading and studying alive (in short keeping her hobby alive).My mom did her M.A. in psychology from Kashi Hindu Vishwavidyalaya (Varanasi) while having me as a kid.
Fight for the right and rights- In some situations where there is a conflicting matter between my mom and dad, my mom use to fight for right. e.g. - In the name of love marriage my dad was very upset, he accepted it front of me but he couldn't accepted it heartily. Understanding the whole situation my mom came to rescue and gave some good logic to dad why he should accept my condition. Now dad is more than happy and knock the most people off who give absurd logic against love marriage.
Changing the image of women- When I get little sense(In btech u can say :D) I found men are usually stereotyping women. Girls/Women are like this like that blah blah blah and all. I found my mom opposite of all.
3.1. She did M.A. not for the sake of collecting degree or getting a job. She did just because she was into the studies. A die hard fan of study and reading.
3.2. She loves cricket more than us knows more rules than us(brother,dad n me).
3.3. Watching all those crappy saas bahu serials very less often.
3.4. She didn't spoon feed us( We brothers are doing our laundry and dusting since childhood).
3.5. Hardly found of jewellery and fashion.
3.6 Helping dad in the business of school i.e. teaching, monitoring , managing ,directing etc.
3.7. Not very emotional- I can't be sure about this point but all I can say unlike most women(as stereotyped)who used to use emotions as there weapons to make something happen against the will of her husband, I never found my mom doing this. Secondly my mom's emotions never came into the way of pursuing my higher education as my hometown is Sasaram and did my graduation from Delhi. She was always cheerful while saying a good bye while leaving my home town every time.
4. Been with my dad from his worst to best.
Examples set my Dad-
Man of steel - You may not believe it but he is my man of steel because of several reasons. First of all he is very hard worker. I have seen him working since 5 A.M. to 9 P.M. on daily basis for several years. I still think how is that possible -Dad!. He took rest from his home tuition profession only after getting a govt job.Secondly I have hardly any memory of my dad fallen sick - so I have very solid reasons to say him Man of Steel.
Having mentality ahead of his generation- I have multiple points on this point.
2.1. Having 3 or 4 children was very common in my Father's generation but my father has decided to keep it only two. Hats off Dad !!.
2.2. I have asked many men and found that still it is pretty difficult to get them involved in family planning. But my father did in that generation. Here is the link if you have any doubts-
2.3. Strictness according to age- This is a very crucial thing in the parenting. My dad always know that when and how much freedom we boys deserve(applies to both bros). Like after passing my 10th I wanted to go to movie[Main Hoon naa] with friends for the first time and my mom denied strictly then I have to say it to Dad. He said Yes instantly. Dad you are great - love you .
2.4. Helping mom in house hold chores - This will be rarely find in the men of my Dad's in the small town like Sasaram.
2.5. Helped mom to get her masters done despite my dad having only graduate degree.
3. Treating my mom like queen- Love and care this is what I am still learning from my mom and Dad. My dad takes very much care of mom. I never saw my dad yelling at my mom. There were situations of disconnect and disagreement but it never happened that it lead to any physical fight. So I have learn to respect women from Dad which is very much absent from many men.
4. Helped me to take interest in maths and science. He took care of my studies till 7-8th grade or you can say until got another tutor. My dad also taught me importance of English despite I was studying in hindi medium till my 10th.
As my mom and dad getting older and more experienced it is being reflected by their hairs - they are graying out of experience , to solve this problem they rely on their expert named as Godrej - http://godrejexpert.com/single_used_pack.php
Happiness is the word that the whole world is constantly searching for. Many ideas, theories and philosophies are there just to make us happy. So is an international day for it too, therefore 20th March of each year is chosen by UN.
Now a days we are so much focused on getting success, getting rich and getting famous that we usually forget that we are not getting happiness. Then despite of being rich, successful and famous we end up with being depressed and unhappy. I am going to share the comprehensive list of people who suffered major depressive disorder http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_people_with_major_depressive_disorder .
You can replace this small fisherman with any villager living in remote village doing some agriculture or farming for his living. I have been to villages too, there you won't find any luxury found in metro cities like - Pubs, Malls , 5 Star Hotels, Gyms, Swimming Pools, etc. But on the parameters of happiness how will you rate Metropolitan city vs a village. Surely everyone knows the answer. If not read this as an example.
I am not trying to say that people living in cities can't be happy or famous people can't find happiness. To get happiness we need to visualize the fake happiness and real happiness. A fake happiness is a temporary happiness or I can say happiness for one or two times.
Examples: Getting a new car will surely make us happy but for how long? After some day we start thinking is it good enough for me, I should have a different model, this car doesn't have these facilities etc etc.
For me a real happiness is seeing a child smiling - no matter what's your age, what's your social status, how much deep pocket you get. Every time you see a child smiling, will surely bring smile on your face. And for this kind of happiness you don't have to go to a village or city.
To get real happiness we need to pause our rat race time to time and think about people and nature around us .
I am trying to list down some small things that makes me happy
We being in relationship often used to roam around shopping malls, theaters, restaurants, bars,parks etc. Very few of us go to temple before marriage. I am going to present you a small date of ours around a temple. The temple was - "Guffa waala Mandir (Preet Vihar)". During my college days I visited this temple earlier on Janamashtmi and I felt very attached to its aura from very first moment. So I wanted to go there again with her. I told her and she agreed instantly. We went there and we offered our worship there to all God present there and in last we entered to the main part of temple where Aarti is offered to Lord Shiva, Ganesha and etc. Before Aarti we offered our pray to Shiva and Ganesha. She was little late for prayer as she got a call from her elder sister .But here I want to put her moment of devotion first then I will put mine. Below is what she wrote.
Around 6 pm at Guffa mandir in Preet Vihar, It was Aarti time. As we entered, pandit ji asked him to ring the bell for aarti. Aarti is something to convey Ur thanks to god and to pray for being blessed. Though I don't like high volume sounds, but there is something magical in the sound of the temple bells. It makes Ur mind to concentrate on god. It could vary from person to person and time to time. Aarti started. We were in front of lord shiv and Goddess Parvati along with Lord Ganesh. I was standing in between of lord's family and him my future family. Mantra chants started, bell started ringing, once twice thrice.... n kept on going.. I really do believe in God's plans. Just to remind Bhagwan ji. Me: " Bhagwan ji, this is the guy behind me who is ringing the bell and I know what he has asked to you.. Will u please please listen to him n bless him." Lord Shiva smiled. n me too. I looked back, he was still busy in offering his services. By the time I was only able to see, was lord Shiva's family and him. Only sound which were reaching to my mind was bells sound. He looked at me as he is saying "I m here don't worry. I am Okay. My hands are not aching". I turned back. "Thank u bhagwan ji, I promise I will take care of him throughout my life. Please give me this chance to do so." This was her moment of inspiration and devotion. At the time of bell ringing I just thought I have to do no matter what it takes. As you already know everybody has preference of God. Somebody likes Krishna more and for somebody else its Hanuman only. I am a big fan of Hanumanji and lord Shiva. As I have to get marry to her I couldn't pray to Hanumanji as he is still bachelor, so I moved to God of love ie Shiva as in every Avatar he married to his love ie ParvatiJi and vice versa. While she was busy talking to her sister as I said to Shivji," Dekh rahe ho na ye ladki jo mere saath aayi h, Yahi hai wo jiske saath mujhe puri jindagi bitaani hai." Out of filmy influence I wanted to see her standing by my side at the end of my prayer but her call was little longer than I expected. I felt bad when I saw she is not there by my side, but I get the life lesson that it is not necessary every time that what you think is what you will get, what matters most is to keep trying what you want to achieve. Therefore I waited a little long and she showed up and I got the life lesson that -" Never give up no matter what".
Similar case happened when we were trying to lookup for housing and when I was about to loose hope to get anything genuine, good and within budget. This https://housing.com/lookup webpage gave me the desired boost to start the hunt again. Life is all about looking up for good in every situation.
Destiny as everyone know has its own way of mending our way to meet two persons. What are you doing now may lead to anything you could have imagined or not. Something it feels good to know that what is happening now, you wanted it to happen, sometimes you don't want and many times it happens for our good without our realisation.
I found myself in the third situation where things used to happen for my good without my realisation in most of the cases. There are many examples but here I want to tell about how I found my life partner who always remains my side whether in I am in odd phase of life or in even phase.
The story starts with joining my first company. How I joined this company is itself a long story for myself. I have tried to sum up few of the links of past how I reached my first company. [Click to know].
After joining the company and working with her about 6-7 months I realized that I am totally in love with her. It took further 2-3 months to get enough courage for getting myself ready for the proposal to a girl who had already became a close friend of mine. On a good day I decided to propose her and I got neither approval nor rejection. As that time I was only her one of close friend so it took little time for her to realise how much I love her. Here isthe short story I wrote how we got together.
As both of us know each other very well before starting of our relationship we liked this new togetherness very much. You can also find her part of story how we got together.
After one year after of our relationship we decided to make it official[Read: we wanted to get married in next one year]. Therefore I let my parents know my decision and she let her parents know her decision. Parents of ours didn't approve at the very first moment. But none of us stopped trying to convince them.
I told my parents that you should meet her before reaching any decision. Therefore I planned a very few phone calls before meeting in person. My mom liked her voice as well as well way of her talking and manner. So I won half of the battle over the phone only :). My mom convinced my dad to go with my decision and meet her face to face. Before meeting her I would say they were convinced only 75%(Although they didn't let me know this fact). But after meeting her I could read satisfaction over their faces. So this was part of my story how I convinced my parents. Let's move to her side now.
In India all of the burden of reputation is on Girl's side. Whether its her character, looking , cooking , walking . Everything about a girl is connected to reputation of girl's parent. If she has a boyfriend -parents to be blamed, if she is partying - parents to be blamed. Anything wrong she ever does parents to be blamed whether before marriage or after marriage as if girls are robot who are being controlled by their parents only and they don't have mind of their own.
I knew convincing her parents will be very tough due to social pressure of so called reputation in society. Her parents told her two major reason for the denial
I don't belong to their caste(or I belong to lower caste)
I don't have any house or property in NCR.
The first point surely comes in every parents mind due to our social structure built upon caste system. And reputation of one's parent get lower if they don't marry their children inside the caste. I was able to understand their situation but I can't correct it till date as I can neither change my caste nor theirs.
Therefore, we decided to hunt for a property as we know sooner or later we have to do this so why not now. For this point I am with her father's side as any girl's father will ask a stability for her after marriage. He doesn't want her daughter to suffer as tenant.
We searched every site available whether offline or online. It took our several weekends running around various property dealer and construction sites to get our flat. As far I could read her face she was more serious than me in search of our new flat.
One day she called me and told me she had found a good flat in budget and in commutable area from https://housing.com . She gave me number of the dealer and deal was done within few days. Then came the difficulty of arrangement of money for the flat as I didn't have much so that bank could give me loan. In this difficult phase we can see who are with us. I could manage to pay for flat with the help of her and my parents. She gave more than 50% of booking amount , I managed 30% and 20% of amount was provided by my father. So now we #together are proud owner of our flat and looking forward to house warming very soon as soon as construction gets completed.
The day I joined my first company I used to think how I got this job. How someone residing in mehrauli got job in a company that was in a mall in noida. Getting the first job is always special. Before joining Nile I was a PHP fanatic for its simplicity and openness ( read open source ). But before going in further details I would like to say these are following key people helped me to get my first job.
I will start from start
Sandip Singh
Sunita singh
RK Singh
Myself
But the whole story took four years to get the job landed to me.
I think starting from end will help much than starting from start.So I will start from my interview.
How I got the chance of interview: I was interviewed because I went to Nile for similar job two times and first time it took 4-5 hours and next time it took only 5 mins. And for your surprise my job was there to fix the internet/LAN connectivity in Oracle Linux, so first time it took 4 hours to figure out what is the problem and the next time I got the call from Nile for similar problem for other workstation , I already had a solution. So fixing the problem in a snap lead them to the query about me. Like what I do , what is my educational background etc etc. They asked me if I know Java, I simply said if I can make a good presentable major college project in a month by learning PHP from scratch, I don't think java would be a problem. Then asked the expected package I said I want the same as I was getting from Syntel through college placement. I didn't ask higher just because the company seemed to be very small and I didn't want to loose the offer as there was no sign when I would get called by Syntel. Then I had been asked to join from tomorrow. [Day1- 1st Nov2011- went to fix the Linux first time, Day2- 2nd Nov2011- went to fix again , Day3- 3rd Nov2011- Joined Nile]
How I got offer to fix the Oracle Linux: Everybody in my college knows that I have sound knowledge of PC hardware as well as software so I was the person who used to go with them purchase new PC or laptop, so my Sandeep Bhaiya [Sandip Singh] also knew the fact. He was/is running a startup called Avigma technologies and he needed some laptops for the office. So he sent his father[RK Singh] along with me to Nehru Place for purchase of one or two laptops. After purchase of the laptop we went to a small shop for the checking of hardware if everything is fine or not. There I saw a person struggling with installation with RedHat. I couldn't resist myself to offer my help. As he was really struggling with the problem he accepted my help and he asked me what I do and what if I have to do the similar kind of job. I readily accepted the offer and shared the contacts as I was jobless that time with only one offer letter in Hand. After two or three days I got a call from his colleague that I have to go somewhere(it was Nile in Noida) to fix this Oracle Linux Connectivity issue as somebody has already installed the OS , but he couldn't make it online. That's how I got the call to fix.
How I got to know Linux Better: I do get better at Linux just because I had a Linux and Networking training from Nettech. Why I mentioning Nettech here is also a part of story because we were only two guys from our college attending this training. Earlier 60% of guys from my class enrolled for this course but as soon as they got to know that they won't get certificate from IIM, all of the guys withdraw from training so did I . But while calling for withdrawal they insisted that only certificates were absent from programme not the course so we had also reduced the course fee also. I got convinced as other option for me was doing a .NET training which I didn't want. So I agreed not to withdraw. And that time I was sure that I was going alone from my college to UIM Greater Noida. But I found Mr Ashish Joshi there. From that training I learnt a lot about Linux,Networking, Hacking , Phising, Virtualization etc. Beside all the learning I made three great friends from there. First is Mr Dynamic, Second is Bengali Babu and third is Ruchi. From my experience I would like to suggest everyone that if you get a chance to get training from Nettech don't miss it.
In our childhood diwali was very exciting and now it became some sort of tradition in which you repeat yourself doing same stuff again and again.
Lightning, decoration and crackers are replaced by exchange of diwali sweets(gitfs in case you want to make somebody extra happy - read bribing) .
When we were child I can easily remember in my hometown there was only exchanges of sweets not gifts. And these sweets were only part of the pooja offered to Goddess Laxmi by the commercial shops or home. There was no involvement of Haldiram or Bikano there.
Sasaram being a commercial hub of my district there were/are many shops from where we were excited to get sweets to my home as my father is very well known person due to our own school.
So my diwali or our family diwali always include offering pooja at two places home as well as school.
We are family of 4, mom dad and my younger brother. So we both brothers got two places to crack our crackers until we get know what exactly we were cracking. When I was 12 then I got to know these fireworks are very environment unfriendly so we both bros decided to celebrate it without crackers. Till date we are maintaining the same. There were two immediate advantage of stopping the use of firecracker, firstly environment is preserved and secondly we got to know the our traditional way of celebrating diwali with parents. Since then we both brothers celebrate it by making our house clean, lighting up candles and decorating and cleaning house with light bulbs.
We used to live in Kaccha house before we moved to concrete one . Diwali meant cleaning as well as painting our house with Calcium carbonate (choona) . Now a concrete house only needs cleaning as today's paints are very stubborn to fade.
Things get change once you move out from home. Now I used for go home every third or fourth year due to various conditions (read job). Being from Bihar we got two big festivals side by side one is Diwali and six days later Chhath. For us diwali is a public celebration and Chhath is family celebration. In the job it became pretty difficult to get the leaves for such long period, so most of the time Diwali is sacrificed for the Chhath. I would say I have got very sensible parents to understand my condition to let me complete my duties instead taking diwali leaves but somewhere deep down in their heart they want to celebrate diwali with us.
In today's fast pace life everything should be profitable that's why get only one day official leave for holi or diwali. My journey to hometown takes 15-18 hours to reach home. If you haven't planned your diwali leaves in advance forget to get the leaves on immediate basis.
Being from bihar and UP leads to another problem ie getting your tickets reserved during the season
. Tickets for diwali get booked within few hours of opening whether it's 2 month early or 3 months early for a train. Belonging to a small town like sasaram and living in a metro like delhi leaves only train as mode of transport, you get no planes, buses, autos. Once there I'd a waiting list in train you just keep your fingers crossed to get it at least RAC. Travelling time and suffering in booking ticket made me celebrate no ghar waali diwali.
Yes ladies,u just read right. I have decided to haunt you. I will
follow you in your day to day paths,I will sit just beside you in
metro,bus,train instead of having other vacant seats.
Now collect all your abuses and scream those to me .
Hope
you feel Lil better after abusing me . Now you will say two things
1.
Isme naya kya h or those who know will ask
2. Why this step?? And why
now.
Let me start explain myself before you leave this
blog. Actually recent incidents against women hurt me so badly to think
about men n women. What I can do or what a woman can do or what a
society should do?
First woman can do two things .
To
teach their child how to respect women. This is very serious matter as I
usually find women have a causal n usual disrespect against another
women. Common things like the girls who hang out with boys other women
consider those as bad girls without knowing anything. The list is
long...Who goes to party , who drinks, who smokes, who
comes late last but not the least who has a boy friend.I as a boy learn
to respect any girl because I never heard my Mom complaining any girl
over the above mentioned reasons. So I think respect for girls came
naturally to me.
Secondly and more importantly , never hide your harassment , fear or concern. It's a bad world for the weak ones, the more you hide the more things will get worse for you. Don't fear anybody and anything. If somebody is against you, remember that you yourself are sufficient for any resistance. We guys will follow you...lead the way Ladies!!!..
Ye to ho gayi from ladies to ladies waali baat ,
now what gentle man should do so that there is,no harsh behaviours or
harassment to ladies.
Here I want to make a single point that in most
of the cases its not the bad guys that harasses a girl it's the good
guy who stops protecting the girl.
So,the above one is the women part
of does and don't s.. Now let us move to more serious part. The men
part of role. When we hear Any news of women harassment we just ignore
as this is not happening to our family. We care only about our family,
we got zero attachment of a person belonging to another family.so here I
want to appeal to the good guys please make a protective cover to
girls. There are very some simple steps you can follow to save some
sisters and mother of others.
Following the ladies path: whenever
u find a single woman please follow her at max, follow more incase of
you find other following her too. This may scare her in the way but at
last she can reach the destination safely.
Standing side by side:
this step should be followed by men in the buses, train n metro. many
times men take advantage of crowd and harass women in the crowd. So let
take a, pledge that good guys will create a crowd around women wherever
whenever they can.
Before you start to answer my question, I just want to tell you that I don't think meri bhi #ConditionSeriousHai. But at the end of this entry I would like to know your views.
Here is the list usually jinki condition serious hoti hai
Parents
Teachers
Relatives
Boss/Managers/TLs
But I am one of those lucky guy , who haven't encountered above 4 types of people in the serious condition.
But,wait I am one of those unlucky guy, who got a close friend jiski #ConditionSeriousHai.
I won't take his name , but if my other college who will read this ,will get to know his name easily.
I studied in a govt Engineering college , due to this fact or by any other reason I may be not knowing, but i all know that going to class on time was not mandatory at all . So usually I used to sleep without alarm , so here comes his list opposite of me which shows his serious condition
His daily ringing loud morning alarms
Reaching classes daily on time[ even of 8:30 A.M.]
Attending classes in which only 3-4 guys are attending
Remembering call duration- like 5 min 18 sec
Saying you are late by 13 min by ur said time
Where as prefer timing only when its kinda emergency like
Exams
Medical Emergency
Team meeting
Client calls
Deadlines
I wish my had a shot of 5 star over his Samsung Star 3g. :P
It was the first time I visited the indiblogger meet . It was quite a nice experience at The Oberoi. Especially the bar.
The things I liked at the meet is the new ideas for the apps.
The ideas which I think are best are as follows.
Indian culture app.
Organ donation app
Potholes locator app
Loo locator app.
I basically prefer the first one as it is the app which can preserve our culture and tradition. The idea is quite simple and innovative.the whole idea is that you select your location in the app and it will give you notification about upcoming events or festivals. The main thing is that you will also get to know that how the particular festival is celebrated.that means what u eat in the festival, what you wear in the festival, how you create decoration for that festival. On what logic the festival is celebrated.etc etc..
The development of this app can be easy as the description of the festivals are already there in the wikipedia. We just have to create a notification with Calendar kind of app.which will be updated as per local festival celebration date.
Yes, you read it right . To be precise I can say I am in love with water, that too since my childhood.
I confirmed this childhood love by the different stories told by my parents and elder brother. Part of Story which I don't remember-- being told by Gaurdians:
1. Literally Jumped from Shoulder(Lap) (Godi):
Usually due to my working parents many times my elder brother (Sudhir Bhaiya) used to take care of me.He may be 11-12 years old when I was 1-2 years old. As he was unaware of my love for water,I took a jump from his shoulder and fell on ground and I got hurt too. Every time he walked near flowing water , he used to hold me tightly , but never left trying to jump off from shoulder whenever I saw water(mainly flowing-read canal).
2. Long baths in childhood:
Usually moms have complaint about their child that they cry during bath, but in my case she had to drag me from the bath tubs and buckets. There was no limit of time if I was left alone with water to play. Part of Story which I can remember--Self felt
1. Watching the flow of canal at bridges:
I still flow with flow of water of canal near the bridges in which water falls from some height (hardly one feet). I stare the flowing/falling water for hours.What I think watching that flow - none. I simply watch that without thinking anything that's why I used to watch for such long hours. I can easily remember canals of my hometown and my village.
2. Enjoying the drinking of water :
This point may seem to odd to most people ,but yes I enjoy the drinking of water. This is the reason I easily drink 5-6 litre of water even in winters. 3. Watching the rain-fall: I don't need to describe this point, almost everybody enjoys the rainfall
Since I came to Delhi back in 2007, I came to know that in Delhi ,bihari is the community which gets the least respect here. I think the same is true in all other states too. So I started my individual mission here that in any case I won't hide my identity regardless whether the person is anti bihari or not. Now let's drill down why biharis are treated like this in Delhi or other places. Here are the possible reasons and explanations . 1. Its biharis itself ..now the explanation part. Because a bihari itself doesn't want to be called bihari. During the time the word bihari became an equivalent to a gali. Now let's think why a bihari doesn't want to be called a bihari The only one reason i found is Low self respect in bihari community. Why there is low self respect because we(biharis )are all aware that the we get the least respect in other states. And due to this fact. Biharis are trapped in a cycle. The good people from bihar hide their identity and the state's reputation remain as it is and thus people continue to hide their identity.
But I want to tell all biharis out there who are reading this . Don't be ashamed of your born (native)place no matter how bad reputation it got. Because nothing is permanent in this world, so is reputation. If Bihar doesn't have that respect we have to built it . No one else will build this reputation ,we Biharis have to build this . And building a good reputation is not that big as we think. I know the fact the fact there are still more good and educated people from Bihar than the perceived bad and illiterate biharis out there. 2. The language itself. Usually a bihari is considered to speak bhojpuri which is although a major speaking language there but Bihar contains many other regional and well developed languages. But we biharis have very less respect of our mother tongue that's why bhojpuri has became a synonym of cheap and vulgar. Again who is responsible for it .again none of other but we. Its us who make cheap and vulgar song and lyrics. And the people from bhojpuri background doesn't speak this as their mother tongue, thus there is nothing which can reduce the cheapness of our well developed language bhojpuri or any other bihari regional languages. I want to ask a simple question from all the people from Bihar ..have u heard any Punjabi,Bengali, madrasi family talking among themselves any other language other than their mother tongue. I think the answer will be No in 95% cases, so why we should ashamed of birth place. Its not the birthplace which makes us respect full its us who makes our birth place or native place respected . It's only Biharis who are responsible for what we are now . Your parents don't talk in your mother tongue outside Bihar then its their fault , it applies inside Bihar too , I have seen many guys talking in Hindi in Patna to their friend who belongs to their village infront of shopkeepers . So please avoid such mistake, we have to make our country, state, city ,better by carrying our culture with us. Update: Now a days during the frequent metro travel I am finding more and more bihari people taliking in their mother tongue and I feel good now. Keep it up.
