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Wednesday, September 23, 2015

how a Sachhi advice makes a difference

In India, there is a saying that always try to live around good people or say educated people. Why because getting a good advice from an educated person is always higher than an uneducated person. And I don't think that I have to explain why it is said so.
The purpose of above saying is that one single advice can change your life's path for better or worse. 
It is simple to say that a good advice will put you on good path and bad advice will put you in bad path. But life's biggest problem is that you don't know when to follow which advice. Your mind will say something, your heart will say something else and your friend will say something else. Which point is to follow you hardly know at that time. Similar thing happened to me also. To know how you have to read my blog post  that how I got my first my job.

I will explain you about 4th point here how Sunita Singh came into picture. Sunita Singh is my cousin almost 7-8 elder than me. When I was in college, she was HR in a reputation firm. One day I was talking to her about my career plans. I was telling her that I was interesting in doing a Linux admin certification to get the Linux admin job. But, as she was HR she knew the industry fact, she told to me move to programming especially JAVA programming to get a good job. I was very bad at JAVA.(You can check my marks :P). But I don't know why I felt that she is telling a right thing. I changed my  mind and move to programming and I joined external classes for JAVA. But still this didn't stop me doing open source project. I completed my college major project in PHP instead of JAVA only due to love for open source community. But learning JAVA gave me first job, second job .  Now I know why JAVA is there and why I am here. Thanks Sunita didi for your Sachhi advice.

I am participating in the #SachchiAdvice Contest by MaxLife in Association with BlogAdda.

Friday, September 4, 2015

My teachers and Me - Part1

First of all, this blog should have come little early than this ,may be a or two year ago, but it's never too late.
All of must agree that our parents are the first teachers we came across (especially mother). I have learnt a lot of things from parents whether it is academics or normal life. I am always thankful to my mom and dad for all of the lessons they taught me intentionally or unintentionally. By saying unintentionally I mean to say they themselves gave a solid example of teachings in form of day to situation handling. I would like to mention some great examples -

Examples set my mom-
  1. Avid reader: No matter what it takes my mom kept reading and studying alive (in short keeping her hobby alive).My mom did her M.A. in psychology from Kashi Hindu Vishwavidyalaya(Varanasi) while having me as a kid.
  2. Fight for the right and rights- In some situations where there is a conflicting matter between my mom and dad, my mom use to fight for right. e.g. - These rights can be ranging from family to political depending upon the situation.
  3. Changing the image of women- When I get little sense(In btech u can say :P) I found men are usually stereotyping women. Girls/Women are like this like that blah blah blah and all. I found my mom opposite of all.
                  3.1. She did M.A. not for the sake of collecting degree or getting a job. She did just because she was into the studies. A die hard fan of study and reading.
                  3.2. She loves cricket more than us, knows more rules than us(brother,dad n me).
                  3.3. Watching all those crappy saas bahu serials very less often.
                  3.4. She didn't spoon feed us( We brothers are doing our laundry and dusting since childhood).
                  3.5. Hardly found of jewellery and fashion.
                  3.6 Helping dad in the business of school i.e. teaching, monitoring , managing ,directing etc.
                  3.7. Not very emotional- I can't be sure about this point but all I can say unlike most women(as stereotyped)who used to use emotions as their weapon to make something happen against the will of her husband, I never found my mom doing this. Secondly my mom's emotions never came into the way of pursuing my higher education as my hometown is Sasaram and did my graduation from Delhi. She was always cheerful while saying a goodbye while leaving my home town every time.
     4.  Been with my dad from his worst to best.

Examples set my Dad-
  1. Man of steel - You may not believe it but he is my man of steel because of several reasons. First of all he is very hard worker. I have seen him working since 5 A.M. to 9 P.M. on daily basis for several years. I still think how is that possible -Dad!. He took rest from his home tuition profession only after getting a govt job. Secondly I have hardly any memory of my dad fallen sick - so I have very solid reasons to call him Man of Steel.
  2. Having mentality ahead of his generation- I have multiple points on this point.
              2.1.   Having 3 or 4 children was very common in my Father's generation but my father had decided to keep it only two. Hats off Dad !!.
              2.2.    I have asked many men and found that still it is pretty difficult to get them involved in family planning. But my father did in that generation. Here is the link if you have any doubts-
             2.3.    Strictness according to age- This is a very crucial thing in the parenting. My dad always know that when and how much freedom we boys deserve(applies to both bros). Like after passing my 10th I wanted to go to movie[Main Hoon naa] with friends for the first time and my mom denied strictly then I have to say it to Dad. He said Yes instantly. Dad you are great - love you .
             2.4.    Helping mom in house hold chores - This will be rarely find in the men of my Dad's generation in the small town like Sasaram.
             2.5.     Helped mom to get her masters done despite my dad having only graduate degree.

      3. Treating my mom like queen- Love and care this is what I am still learning from my mom and Dad. My dad takes very much care of mom. I never saw my dad yelling at my mom. There were situations of disconnect and disagreement but it never happened that it led to any physical fight. So I have learnt to respect women from Dad which is very much absent from many men.

      4.  Helped me to take interest in maths and science. He took care of my studies till 7-8th grade or you can say until I got another tutor. My dad also taught me importance of English despite I was studying in Hindi medium till my 10th.

Describing mom and dad can go on and on....
To be continued for my next teachers......