Holi @ Saraon Tola

I don't know how to start describing Holi. Holi is definitely a celebration of colours, besides that in my home town it's celebration of brotherhood as well as celebration of family bonding.
You know how Holi is celebrated in India, more or less customs are same everywhere in north India atleast but I want to describe how Holi is celebrated in my Hometown and in my village. Only you can decide how much it is different from yours place.

Holi@Sasaram - My Hometown
Being a town here Holi celebration is bit filmy at the start. At start means at the day of Holi from morning to afternoon( 5 pm is cutoff). So it starts with matki phodu event like this

A band of guys with a band start with some pre-defined place and move this band to the whole locality with song and music. And all families pour colour or water on them. After covering all locality and they go for matki place. And every Majnu tries to impress her Laila by trying to smash the matki. After this event all guys go to their respective home or friends home to have their lunch with sweets and all.
This was schedule of some gangs of boys, not every guy take part in this. These remaining guys used to go to their friend's house to put colour on him and take their friend along with him. Thus again creating a gang and moving house to house putting colour on people according to relations. Eating and colouring goes on and on each house.
Around 3 and 4 pm all chaos comes to a halt for some rest and removing colours from all parts of body :P.
Then phase 2 of the Holi starts in evening around 5 pm, where again each individual goes to their relatives and  neighbours for their blessing and Holi congratulations. In this phase no water and liquid colour is used. Only abeer or say dry colour is used.
In phase1 mostly friends are involved in each activity where as in phase 2 , family and relatives are covered. We take blessing of our elders by putting some putting some dry colours on their feet. They gave us blessing to us by rubbing the dry colour on our face. Everybody tries to meet as many as many relatives they can meet.

Holi@Sasaram - My Village
My village is around 40 KM is away from my home town, it has slightly different way of celebrating holi. I will mention only the differences from Sasaram, rest is same as of Sasaram if not mentioned.

1. No matki phodu event
2. Chaita song like this at Holi night .
3. Awesome night before Diwali where boys act some kind of prank at each targeted house. 
4. Lighting crackers also happens a day-night before diwali.

Don't know why but due to Chaita only I like Holi at my village most. Please let us know in the comment section how much different is Holi celebration at your place?

“I’m pledging to #KhulKeKheloHoli this year by sharing my Holi memories at BlogAdda in association with Parachute Advansed.”

How to Empower Women

I have been observing women and their difficulties in empowerment since my childhood. Whether it is for political power or power to put any point in family. 

Whatever I know through my experience is that- everybody wants some kind of power. Women also want power, but their choice of power may be different from men. That’s why I think it took this long claim their equality. Why I am saying this – because if women wanted equality like men they would have regained very earlier. 

Women constitute 50% of human population. How 50% of population can dominate other 50%. Do you have any reason for this, I don’t have any. Women’s 50% consists of mother and wife. How many men do you think can survive without mother and wife 5 to 10%?  Your answer.

If women lost their power in the process of civilization or modernization, I would blame them too, why? Because you can’t expect from anybody to not to take advantage of you (women) if you don’t let it happen. It’s a known fact that women lack unity, this is why taking advantage of them is easy. 

 Tell me some good example of women unity in comments if you have any. If you talk about India, you will say women don’t dominate due to lack of education or a patriarchal society, but what about west. Why even Google, Facebook and Microsoft are trying very hard to bring more women onboard……….where is the fault? Whom to blame? Interviewer?  Company Policy? Family pressure? 

According to USA’s National science foundation women have higher degree ratio but men dominate them in science and technology. It’s under 25% (Means- for every 100 students, there are more than 75 men and less than 25 women - Tell me dear women how do you really expect equality when you are opting out high paying and technological degrees (STEM in particular) by yourself. 

See the report now

•  http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Indian-science-institutes-missing-womans-touch/articleshow/51300646.cms
• http://www.esa.doc.gov/sites/default/files/womeninstemagaptoinnovation8311.pdf

Dear ladies, if you want luxury of equality, you have to work hard equally like men. You have to come out of comfort zone. Please don’t want a Prince charming who will come and you won’t have to work ever. I know most of you are not like this but still there are male dominating field and women dominating field. And most dominating field is not that tough as you may think. Like being a computer science engineer. It require all the skills your already have or you can gain it from the hard work and experience. 

I am waiting for ladies to join these fields where they should be present.

Dear future husband,, here's few things...

Dear future husband,,,

Here's a few things,,

You need to know if you wanna be

My one and only all my life....

As the first few lines and of course the title of this post itself conveys that i have not found my man yet. And yes,, of course it doesn't mean that i have not thought about the #kasam aur #vaada that i want from my future dear hubby. So my dear future hubby ,,, be ready ;) Here comes few of the kasams out of the long list.

1. I want my man to make a promise that as I would be going to accept his family wholeheartedly, he should also accept my family in the same way. The way I would be going to give the love and respect to all his family members, I accept the same from him for my family too.

2.The second promise that I want from him is that sometimes I may be irritated and may act in a crazy way ,,, so in those moments he must understand me and be by my side. Comfort me in time of distress. 

3.He must promise to dance with me. Yes,, you read it right. As I love dancing, he should dance with me often. I'll love it,, if in addition to dance he'll sing for me (Singing will be a bonus point ;) )

4.Promise to go with me on shopping. and not just go,,, I also want him to help me out genuinely in making choices while shopping. (I know ,,, ye thoda mushkil hai,,, but if he loves me ,, he will bear it with too... :D )

5. Secret and Lies Kill relationship. So no Lies please. I want him to promise me that he will never lie to me. Promise to be a true and faithful partner.

6. Love is built on trust. Relationships that are not anchored in trust are not made to survive rocky trials. Therefore, I want him to promise me to trust me.

7. Promise to show me sweet romantic gestures every now and then so that our love flourishes and our relationship never lose it's spark.

8. Last but not the least,,, Promise to love me for who i am with all your heart.

chalo,,, abhi k liye itna baaki hai,,, furthermore i'll tell him when i'll meet him... :)

P.S. - I’m blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women’s Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda in association with Set Wet.